Too Skinny

Since I was a kid and lately alot during the past few years, I have gotten alot of comments about my weight/body size. Comments like “Girl, you are too skinny”, “Do you even eat?” , “How do you not gain weight?”, You’re so lucky you can eat whatever you want”.

I can honestly say I don’t exercise, I try and eat somewhat “healthy” but I eat alot of sweets since I got sober and really do not stress about food. I have the body of a 10 year old boy. No boobs, no butt. I’m pretty much a stick. I am very ok with this today but this was not always so. I used to be very self conscious about having no body shape. I wanted bigger boobs, a bigger but and curves. Today with the help of a 12 step program that I live everyday, this is not important to me anymore. I can be happy with who I am today, Sassy and amazing.

Yesterday though I go another “you’re too skinny” comment and on my drive home I thought about it. These comments are meant to be compliments I think, but they don’t sound like compliments most of the time. This was a matter of perspective. But if I was perceived to be overweight would the same people come up to me me and say “you’re too fat”, “what do you eat?” , “It sucks that you can’t eat what you want, that’s so unlucky”. No they wouldn’t. They wouldn’t because it is not a kind thing to say. Well neither is “you’re too skinny”.

As women we place alot of importance on how we look. It’s ingrained in us. I was talking to my best friend about the too skinny comments and she said “I wish someone would say that to me”. I know this is not something that will change anytime soon in the world but I want you to think about it the next time you are jealous of someone’s body type think about where that is coming from. Is it really important? Does the fact that I am skinny make me a good person? If someone likes me or hates me because I’m skinny what does that really say about them? Think about it the next time you are going to make a comment about someone’s body to them, it may not be a compliment to them and in the end it doesn’t really matter.